Romance in Washington DC

Already before I moved here, I was told that this was not a place to find a partner. Especially not for a women of my age. (Though I am not sure where that place would be since my colleague told me one of my first weeks in Chisinau that “after the age of 27, you’re off the market as a women in Moldova!”) I could think of a variety of reasons for this, such as the mismatch in the life stages that men and women are in when they come here, especially because of the kind of people that this city attracts. Many are high achievers and have gone all the way through the education system. The staff in the White House administration, including the President and First Lady, is kind of representative for the professional work force here, from the Government and NGO staff to those in the International Organizations. But high academic achievements often mean that other things are sacrificed and my impression is that many here did not belong to the party clic in high school or even in college. It also means that it takes time to go through school and many are in their 30s before they get here. So when women come here and start working, it is for biological reasons also time for them to start thinking of their private lives. For guys, however, it is a different story. Who wouldn’t want to enjoy finally earning some money and the attraction that we all have when we feel successful and more self confident. Especially in an environment where intelligent people are more popular than the sporty? (Also, the beauty bar is not very high here…) So a lot of guys prefer dating around and thus, there is a bit of a mismatch in timing between men and women.

However, and perhaps just because people here are high achievers and have been good at getting what they want, they also are quite picky in terms of attributes of a prospective partner. I heard for example this story the other day:

A acquaintance of mine (JH) heard that one of his female friends was interested in dating and he thought immediately of a male friend of his. Hence, JH called up his male friend and asked if he would be interested in going out with this girl. The friend said maybe, and then started asking if she was smart, what she was doing, and where she was working. She was a lawyer and apparently that was OK, but then he wanted to know where she went to law school. JH didn’t know so he had to call the girl and it turned out that she went to Yale, which was alright with the guy. JH then called the girl again and told her that he had a friend who was interested in going out with her. Nice, she said, but how tall is he? JH wasn’t sure but guessed 5’7 or 5’8. Sorry, she said, I only date guys over 5’9. But how tall are you? JH asked. “5’1” was the answer. Needless to say, JH gave up after that! It’s however not the only time I hear people list such requirements, so maybe people are just not open enough to see the the sides that actually matter in a person.

Mr. Darcy and Lizzy – the classic couple that with time saw each other in a new light

Washingtonians and their Weekend Brunch

P was up for brunch so we ended up at on of about 20 brunch places on 17th Street. There are few things that the Washingtonians like so much as brunch so especially on sunny days like this, the outdoor seating areas are filled with people enjoying egg benedict, French toast, bagels, orange juice, and diner-style coffee. Some places also serve mimosas and Bloody Mary’s. To really get into the Washingtonian Sunday brunch style, you should preferably also bring a yoga mat and/or a chic dog, and whereas coffee can be enjoyed in solitude, you cannot eat brunch alone. The more friends you share it with, the better! It is sometimes a little funny checking out the crowd, but it is really one of my favorite American habits! And luckily, A joined us after a while, so managed to fit in among the Washington brunch crowd.

We managed to get a table outside, it is probably the last brunch out in the sun this year.

Crazy Storm in the DC Area

Yesterday, we had another terrible storm here in DC. Fortunately, I had not yet left for work in the morning when it passed 16th Street NW.  All of a sudden, it got completely dark outside and I could barely see across the street. Since this type of weather normally passes pretty quickly here, I just decided to wait a while and started reading a book that Therese gave me when she was here (Me Talk Pretty One Day by David Sedaris – really funny!). And just as I thought, 45 min, it was all over and when I stepped out of my building, the sun was shining again. When I got to the office, I heard that the storm had caused a lot of damage: that basements were flooded and that some of my colleagues had no electricity in their houses, etc, but I didn’t really realize just how bad it was until I saw these pictures that people had sent in to the Washington Post. Have a look at it! Though nothing near Russia and Pakistan, it is still extreme.

The Hamburger Conversation

When I was out with P and A this Friday, P (who had been to Europe for a month) started complaining about the superficial conversations of Americans. (And yes, P himself is American.) I know what he means. I am also often missing the more analytical discussions that I so often had in Europe. I have however thought that I have been a bit unfortunate with the people I have met (except for P of course!), or that it is just the way you have a conversation here. I.e. that it is not polite to discuss so much and that it should be kept to a more casual level.

Saturday morning, I was having brunch at Le Pain Quotidien, and overheard a couple (that seemed to be on a date) discussing hamburger figures. Except for Ronald McDonald, they managed to name countless more that had been representing various hamburgers during their childhood and adolescent. I tuned out in the middle of a lengthy description of some female cheeseburger character (it isn’t polite to eavesdrop anyway!) and focused instead on my Romanian grammar. About 20 minutes later, I looked up from my book again, and guess what the couple was discussing? Burger meals! If the topic had lasted for 20 minutes, I cannot say, but all of a sudden I agreed with P about the intellectual level of conversations here.

27 Degrees C and I’m Wearing a Sweater

Like I wrote below, it’s been crazy hot here this summer. For weeks, it’s been over 35 degrees Celsius (whatever that is in Farenheight but it’s over 90), and for a few days it was 40 C (around 100 F). It was hot even for me, and though I normally hate AC, I had to take the bus a couple of times (which has AC) because it was too hot to walk. Fortunately, Tesse, Eva-Marie and Julia are Swedish and Swedes don’t complain about warm weather. It is a cultural taboo due to the long winters and the little sunlight we have for so many months. Both Julia and Eva-Marie love the sun to the extent that we were sitting out in the sun and not in the shade even during lunch, and we would always walk on the sunny side of the street. I guess the vitamin D deficiency that I had earlier this year should be alright now. But today, the temperature all of a sudden dropped to 27 Centigrade (81 F) and I actually had to wear a sweater because it felt so cold!

Summertime in DC

The heat is back! After a few days of little above 30 degrees celsius, or about 85 F, it will again be almost 40 celsius here in DC today (or about 100 F). So most Americans stay indoors in their air conditioned homes. However, last time I went to the doctor (or rather, when I went to the doctor recently for the first time in four years), I found out that I have vitamin D deficiency. And while supplements work, the best thing is of course the body’s own production. Which means being out in the sun more and not necessarily always being covered in sunscreen. Elisa’s doctor told her that vitamin D deficiency has become an epidemic in this country because Americans don’t go out anymore. It is a bit sad, I think. So despite the heat, I am now on my way out for breakfast. I do hope there are seats available in the shade though. And to add to my healthy choices, I will of course have coffee which I read just the other day have so many positive health effects that researchers believe they will make medicine out of some of the substances in a few years. A cup of coffee in the sun – it really isn’t that difficult to lead a healthy lifestyle…

You can find the article about the coffee here (I didn’t manage to link it): http://www.dn.se/livsstil/halsa/en-kopp-kaffe-for-halsan-1.1139332

Never A Dull Moment…

After coming in early for a videoconference with ministry and EU member state representatives in one of the countries that I work with, I am now back home in my apartment though it is not even noon. The reason? Someone placed a bomb close to my office which shut down the entire block. When I came to the office in the morning, the streets around were already closed down: there were police cars everywhere and I had to enter through the back entrance. And eventually they closed down more streets and the part of the building where I am sitting, and we were sent home to work from there instead. Which works just as well for me, especially since I can work in shorts and t-shirt, and my coffee is a lot better than in my office. The interesting thing is that there is absolutely nothing on-line or on the news about this, so I am not even sure what happened. But at least it doesn’t get boring here!

Never A Dull Moment…

After coming in early for a videoconference with ministry and EU member state representatives in one of the countries that I work with, I am now back home in my apartment though it is not even noon. The reason? Someone placed a bomb close to my office which shut down the entire block. When I came to the office in the morning, the streets around were already closed down: there were police cars everywhere and I had to enter through the back entrance. And eventually they closed down more streets and the part of the building where I am sitting, and we were sent home to work from there instead. Which works just as well for me, especially since I can work in shorts and t-shirt, and my coffee is a lot better than in my office. The interesting thing is that there is absolutely nothing on-line or on the news about this, so I am not even sure what happened. But at least it doesn’t get boring here!

National Day Picnic at the Swedish Ambassador’s Residence

To celebrate the Swedish National Day, the Swedish Community in DC had organized an evening picnic at the Ambassador’s Residence. Or rather, they had organized with music (Lund’s University Orchestra if I remember correctly) and a lawn, and everyone brought their own food. Both Monika and I were quite busy yesterday so we agreed to just bring pizza, fruit and coffee, and make a quick stop. I am glad I went because it was nice to catch up with some of my Swedish acquaintances here and to get away from my computer for a while, since I sent most of it working.

May 2010 ii 022 DC’s Swedish Community outside the Ambassador’s residence

May 2010 ii 024 Our little group

May 2010 ii 028 Me (dressed in blue and yellow in honor of the day) and Monika

May 2010 ii 018

Cherry Blossom Festival

At some point in the American history, a Japanese representative gave a Japanese cherry tree to the American people. Since then, for a few weeks every year, Washington is covered with pink flowers. It is beautiful and is celebrated with a yearly festival. I haven’t checked out this year’s festival, but I enjoy having lunch in Lafayette Park these days.

April 04 013Japanese cherry blossom trees in Lafayette Park in front of the White House